Are kids and teens with ADHD at risk for suicide? Studies say the answer is yes, especially among girls, those whose mothers were depressed, those who have behavioral issues or anxiety, and those with primarily hyperactive symptoms. Most parent would rather not discuss the issue with their kids for fear that talking about suicide will only implant the idea in their impressionable minds. However, current studies show that children and teens already know about suicide, and that talking about it to children will actually prevent it. Here are some suggestions on how to talk to your child about suicide.
Young children
The best thing you can do for your child at this age is to help him or her manage their feelings. Encourage your child to express feelings by talking to them or asking gently, "How do you feel? Are you sad or angry? Do you feel sad or angry sometimes or do you feel it all the time?" Explain to your child that it's normal to feel sad, especially during times of loneliness, disappointment, or loss. Teach your child that it's okay to feel angry or sad and to shed a few tears, but that harming yourself is not the way to cope with these feelings. Emphasize that these awful feelings can be shared with you or other people who can understand. Also provide your child with activities that serve as an outlet for their feelings, such as sports, art classes, and dances. Stay closely connected to your child so you can form a strong bond and intervene if he or she is feeling low.
Adolescents
Adolescents are old enough to be aware of what suicide is; in fact, they may have already heard of it in the news or played around with the idea in their heads. At this age, you can talk about suicide in a straightforward yet fact-based manner. Acknowledge that suicide is a serious health issue that can hurt the lives of many people; it is not normal and it should not be sensationalized. Let your child know that you care and that you are here to provide help. Listen to your child and be aware of the stressors in his or her life. Assist your child in whatever way you can so that he or she doesn't feel overwhelmed with activities or negative thought.
Likewise, be aware of the symptoms of depression among adolescents with ADHD. This co-morbid disorder rarely goes away without interventions and can lead to suicide if it persists for two weeks or more.
Teenagers
As with adolescents, you can talk to teens about suicide in a straightforward manner. Be involved in your child's life and be in touch about what he or she thinks, feels, and does. Make yourself available to talk, and listen when your child speaks. Make sure to watch out for language related to harming themselves, wanting to just "disappear", or similar other statements. Take these statements seriously and seek help when needed. If your child feels constantly depressed, consider seeking the help of a therapist or counselor.
Dr. Yannick Pauli is an expert on natural approaches to ADHD and the author of the popular self-help home-program The Unritalin Solution. He is Director of the Centre Neurofit in Lausanne, Switzerland and has a passion taking care of children with ADHD. Click on the link for more great information about what is adhd.
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